Taking Time to Myself

I got up early this morning.  My sweet baby girl (who is six months old today!) did a six hour stretch last night, which is a vast improvement compared to recent nights, so I too got a little more sleep.  I tried to fall back asleep after the 5:30 am wakeup but I felt restless.  So instead of tossing and turing I decided to get up, do some yoga and enjoy some quiet time to myself.

I wish I could do this every morning.

I miss my yoga practice. And early morning sessions always remind me of the three weeks I spent in Costa Rica a lifetime ago doing my yoga teacher training.  We were up, on our mats at 6 am every day.  The air was cool but humid.  I would wake to the sound of howler monkeys and make my way silently to the yoga shala atop a little hill overlooking the lush rainforest.  At the end of the class we’d lay in savasana awaiting the sound of the conch which meant it was breakfast time.  Breakfast was often had in silence and we would all sit an enjoy our food and much awaited coffee.  I remember feeling so much gratitude and love.  I felt so alive those mornings.  I came back home wanting to continue an early morning practice, but it just wasn’t the same.

Once my sweet baby girl starts sleeping better (god, please be soon!!) I am going to make this my new ritual.  I need time to myself every day, and not at the end of the day when I’m exhausted and filled with all of the feelings of the day.  Taking care of a toddler and a baby is not easy.

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A Day in My Life

I really want to keep this blog and my habit plans going but it’s a bit hard with a three month old and a two-year-old. So instead of writing about any particular habits today I thought I would show you a day in my life.

Now this is not a typical day because there really is no typical day. Isabel isn’t really on a schedule yet so her naps are a bit all over the place. Some days she only takes 45 minute naps and some days Nathan refuses to nap, which can make for a really long day. And our day he can start anytime between 7 and 8:30 pretty much depending on when Nathan wakes up.

So having said that here was our day on Friday, May 12.

Warning: My tenses are really off in this post – I hope you don’t mind!  Some of this is me recording it as it happens and some is looking back and I honestly just don’t have the time or mental capacity to edit it. Also, this is a long post because, well, my days are long.

7 AM Everyone is awake. I get Isabel out of her crib, bring her into bed with me and nurse her to the sound of Nathan jumping and chatting to himself. I leave Isabel on the bed, go down and make myself a cup of coffee because, well, priorities. Last night I was up with her at 2 and 5:30 so I’m a little tired today. I’m a little tired every day. I drink my coffee in the bedroom while Isabel and I smile and coo each other. I don’t hear Nathan so I think he might have fallen back asleep. I use that as an opportunity to take a quick shower.

7:45 AM Nathan is up. I go in and get them and say good morning good morning hello good morning. I change him out of his pyjamas and we eventually make our way downstairs for milk and breakfast which this morning is french toast and bananas. Isabel’s pretty fussy this morning so I put her upstairs in the crib for her to stare at her mobile which is her favourite thing to do these days.

8:45 AM Isabel’s up in the ergo carrier. Nathan is colouring on the living room floor and I’m trying to get him out the door to his daycare, which is just a few houses down.

Oh man, look at that tired face!

may 12

9:00 AM I’m back home from dropping Nathan off at the daycare. We always see a cat on our way, so we stop and talk about the cat for a little while. “Yes, it’s a cat.  That’s right, it’s white.  I know, I saw the cat too. Say bye to the cat, ok bye bye cat.  Yes, I know, it’s a cat.  That’s right it’s white.”  And so on…it usually takes a long time to get there but today was actually pretty quick. By the time I get back Isabel is ready for her nap.

9:10 AM Isabel is napping. While I was nursing her down today she started shaking which has never happened before and it scared the crap out of me but she stopped as soon as I said her name. I then spent the next 15 minutes googling it and apparently it’s normal. Still, I don’t like it. So while she naps I throw in a load laundry, clean up Nathan’s crayons, clean up the kitchen and  did this really great 20 minute yoga routine. It was hard but I modified where I needed to. I then made it through 12 minutes of meditation. Isabel cried out halfway through so my mind started wondering to what we were going to do today and I somehow ended up thinking about wanting to buy a piano. I then had a coffee answered some texts checked my email while listening to Yoga Girl’s latest podcast.

11:10 AM she’s up! Big nap today. This is her reaction to seeing me, melts my heart every time!

isabel waking

We have about an hour before we have to go get Nathan so I nursed her, change her, and we play a bit. I have lunch (left over chicken stir fry) and then I put her in the ring sling and we head out the door.

12:00 p.m. We walked down the street to pick up Nathan and on our way back we watch the squirrels climbing the trees. Nathan plays with the rocks in the backyard for a bit and then we come inside to colour and I nurse Isabel while Nathan eats crayons and pretends to shove them up his nose all while saying OK play? OK play? Yes Nathan OK play.

silly nathan

12:40 PM I bring Isabel upstairs for a nap while Nathan stays downstairs and colors. She went down quickly with no shaking (phewf). I come back to find him reading a not so child appropriate book (it’s A Game of Thrones graphic novel) and he wants to read it together so we spent some time reading.  Mostly it’s me saying ‘boy, eyes, hair, horse’ and ignoring the fact that there’s lots of fighting and blood and just not appropriate things.

nathan reading comic

I spend the next half hour trying to convince Nathan to come upstairs with me for his nap. What  finally works is putting him in the ring sling. He loved it. I think he likes to be reminded that he’s still my baby. It’s not easy having a new baby sister I’m sure.

1:20 PM Nathan’s asleep. Both kids are napping. I have coffee, text some friends and start this blog post. I put on some music and think about tidying up the house and folding laundry but end up surfing the net, staring out the window, and enjoying this calm moment to myself.

2:30 PM  Both kids are still napping.  This is unheard of!!  I’m contemplating another coffee, but I try to limit it to three a day.  I have a tea instead along with a handful of cashews, some goldfish crackers, and half a bagel.  And then a bowl of chilli.  Breastfeeding is hungry work!

tea

I read my book, check on Isabel three times, and drink two glasses of water.

3:30 PM Nathan wakes up crying, as he does unfortunately.  I usually give him 10 minutes before going in, otherwise he’s an inconsolable mess, so I wait.

4:00 PM both kids are up we make our way down stairs and have a smoothie with spinach, banana, blueberries, yogurt, and coconut water. Isabel plays on her activity mat and Nathan walks around drinking his smoothie. He’s also learned how to unlock and open the patio door, so that’s fun.

patio door

4:30 PM Dad’s home! Danny orders pizza while I hang out with the babies.

5:00 PM We eat. Isabel eats my hand and drools all over me. I’m pretty sure she’s starting to teethe. More hanging out.

6:00 PM Isabel goes down for her last nap of the day and we read books with Nathan. He’s going a little crazy, we think it might have been the pizza.


6:40 PM Isabel is up and it’s bath time. Nathan wants to get in the bath with Isabel and 2 minutes later points at her and says ‘out’. I do Isabel’s bedtime routine and danny does Nathans.

Wine o’clock YAY! aka 8:00. Kids are in bed. Danny and I have wine and watch a little Netflix.

10:00 PM Time for bed.  I get up with her twice in the night and start the next day at 7:45.  Tired but happy 🙂

Three Things I Need To Start Doing

So I’m having a bit of a hard time keeping up with this fitness challenge.  I did the pushups and shoulder exercises on Monday, but I didn’t do yoga on Tuesday nor did I do yesterday’s exercises.

Not good.

But I’m trying not to be too hard on myself because:

  1. I have an 11 week old.  As amazing of a sleeper as she is, she’s only 11 weeks old and I’m still getting up in the night with her at least once.  Taking care of a baby (and a toddler) is also pretty time consuming and when I do have a moment to myself I’d honestly rather lay on the couch watching bad tv than do pushups.
  2. I just had a baby 11 weeks ago.  The last few weeks of pregnancy and the first few weeks I got very little sleep.  I feel like I have some major sleep catch up to do.  Plus, even though my postpartum recovery has been amazing, pretty sure my body is still recovering.

I know, excuses excuses.

The original plan was to do the exercises while they nap.  When I’m not tired from being up in the night I can totally do it during Isabel’s morning nap.  If that doesn’t work out, and the stars align and Nathan and Isabel nap at the same time, I can do it in the afternoon.

But then there’s days like today.  Nathan is home with me because he’s sick so I spent the morning with him.  Then he went for a nap just as Isabel was waking up.  I just put Isabel down for another nap and I can hear Nathan waking up now.

And then I think, I can just do it when they are awake.  But honestly, I’d rather play with my babies.

I guess the thing is if I really want to bring fitness back into my life, I need to do to things:

  1. I need to prioritize it.  I have the time.  I do.  I mean, it only takes 15 or 20 minutes – I can for sure find that somewhere in my day.
  2. I need to take it one day at a time.  If I miss a day, it’s ok.  One day missed does not have to mean the end of the whole thing – which is kind of how my mind works.  I need to be flexible and I need to be forgiving.
  3. I need to just start.  When I’m tired just the thought of doing exercises is exhausting.  But if I just start, it’s easy to go on.  If I tell myself: just do one pushup, there’s a good chance I’ll do more.

So today’s exercise is elliptical, which is too bad because that’s one that I really can’t do with the babies around today.  So instead, in the spirit of flexibility, I’m going to do some yoga – seeing as I skipped Tuesday.

I’m sure I can find a mom and toddler yoga routine on youtube…that should be interesting.

10 Minute Clean Up

Have you guys seen the movie Adventures in Babysitting?  You know that scene at the end when they all get back from their crazy night and Chris (the babysitter) does a quick clean up of the house?  That scene for some reason always stuck with me – weird, I know.  It just showed how quickly you can get shit done when you really need or want to.

Some days I look around the house and just feel overwhelmed with how messy it is.  And too lazy and tired to do anything about it.  But I know I can’t relax if the place is a mess.  So what I do is put on a good song and tell myself to just clean to that song.  Get as much done as I can and leave it at that.

Doing that not only gets me started, but I usually end up cleaning for longer.  But even if I just do clean for the length of that song I find I can actually get a lot done.

So if you’re like me and don’t feel like cleaning, try just doing it for one song.  Or set a timer for 10 minutes.

Here is an awesome example of the 10 minute clean up which I found pretty motivating.  Plus, I like the song a lot.

 

Oh and I didn’t really do my exercise challenge yesterday.  I did move my body though.  We went for nice walk as a family in the morning – Nathan pretty much ran the whole time.

A running toddler is pretty  much the cutest thing in the world, by the way.

When we got home I decided to attempt to do Monday’s workout instead which was pushups and shoulder thingies.  I did a few modified pushups and felt extremely wimpy.  Then Nathan climbed on my back and I did a few more and we had a good laugh.

So all in all, not a complete write-off.

A Hectic Morning

This is going to be a quick check in to say that today’s exercise is done and done.  Instead of elliptical I went for a walk to my friends house and back.  It was a bit of a disaster of a morning – baby screaming, toddler hanging off my leg crying, laundry piled on the couch…you know, typical ‘I have two small children’ scene.

It was actually incredibly stressful.  I hate when my sweet baby girl cries and I can’t get to her. Or when my son needs my attention and I have to tend to a screaming baby.  And I feel it all so much more when the house is a mess.

But we did it.  We managed to leave the house.  A half hour later than planned, but we did it!

Oh and it was only once I got to my friends house that I noticed I had completely neglected my appearance.  No makeup, hair a disaster.  I was wearing pants though, so that’s something.

And it’s a beautiful day.  It was a nice walk there and back – total 50 minutes of walking.  I’m thinking I’ll get out for another walk once the babies wake up from their naps.

That’s right – they are both napping at the SAME TIME right now.  Well, my son is currently babbling in his room, but he’ll fall asleep soon.  Point is, I have no one screaming at me or hanging off my leg.

Sorry, I realize this is quickly turning into a ‘mom blog’ but yeah, that’s kind of my life right now.

Oh I also wanted to say that I’m pretty sore from yesterday’s workout.  Just goes to show how out of shape I am.

As for tomorrow…the plan is:

BENT OVER ROW (with weights)
DEADLIFT (with weights)

Ugh that does not sound like a good time.  Not sure when I’ll fit it in seeing as it’s a holiday and Danny and Nathan will both be home in the morning.  Maybe we’ll all do a workout together 🙂

Until tomorrow…